Jada Pinkett Smith delivers wise words on her facebook page. I just discovered this today and had to share with you 3 great messages from the multifaceted woman.
A message to a friend:
Romantic love makes us believe, every time, that we don’t have to be responsible for our lives. The intoxication of love gives the illusion that we found the ONE to erase the pain and make life easy forever. We go from one person to the next when the intoxication is over chasing this high. Love is not a high…Love is a challenge.
Love is the gateway to our greater se
lves through the trials she delivers in order to find the “love with no illusions” that can weather the storms of disappointment, betrayal and misfortune.
First wait to discover if you can get past the stage of romanticism,of intoxication. Wait to see if there is any real substance in this to help you both survive the pain that “love with no illusions” inevitably delivers in order to experience its true glory. If so…you may have a reason to give him your life and he to give his to you. Only time can tell you. Wait for time to speak.
A letter to a friend:
Unfortunately, we are taught that the best way to move on from a relationship is to simply discard the person we once claimed we loved. I have no argument with the fact that relationships of all kinds find endings, but I do question how we end them.
You have given TEN YEARS of your life to a woman who has stood beside you when no one else would. I have watched you put he
r through school and come through as her champion in soooo many ways. Why must ALL that history be thrown away because you have both decided it’s time to move on? Take time to heal. Take time to examine the hurts and disappointments. Take time to get clear on what part you played in this, as well as the part she played. Work through the anger and blaming to find a way to forgive and have understanding for human ways. Find the path of holding on to what’s good, while setting the boundaries to put it all in its proper, new place. Give space and take space to heal with the intention to make it right in a different form…in a different way. Its through these difficult situations where we learn to truly love, even though, it feels absolutely impossible to do so.
The war on men through the degradation of woman.
How is man to recognize his full self, his full power through the eye’s of an incomplete woman? The woman who has been stripped of Goddess recognition and diminished to a big ass and full breast for physical comfort only. The woman who has been silenced so she may forget her spiritual essence because her words stir too much thought outside of the pleasure space. The woman who has been diminished to covering all that rots inside of her with weaves and red bottom shoes.
I am sure the men, who restructured our societies from cultures that honored woman, had no idea of the outcome. They had no idea that eventually, even men would render themselves empty and longing for meaning, depth and connection. There is a deep sadness when I witness a man that can’t recognize the emptiness he feels when he objectifies himself as a bank and truly believes he can buy love with things and status. It is painful to witness the betrayal when a woman takes him up on that offer. He doesn’t recognize that the [creation] of a half woman has contributed to his repressed anger and frustration of feeling he is not enough. He then may love no woman or keep many half women as his prize. He doesn’t recognize that it’s his submersion in the imbalanced warrior culture, where violence is the means of getting respect and power, as the reason he can break the face of the woman who bore him four children.
When woman is lost, so is man. The truth is, woman is the window to a man’s heart and a man’s heart is the gateway to his soul.
Power and control will NEVER out weigh love.
May we all find our way.
If you wish to be further inspired and keep up with Ms. Jada, please feel free to check out her facebook page HERE.