Therapy is, oftentimes, a taboo subject, especially in the African-American community. Perhaps, we do not discuss our need for therapy because we are afraid of how others will perceive us (as if others do not have their own issues). The words “crazy” and “unstable” seem to be the implied judgement when therapy is brought up. We may also avoid therapy like the plague because some of us may feel we are not honoring our faith by entrusting another human being to “fix” our issues instead of God. However, it would actually be crazy not to seek help when having difficulties in life; and in therapy, we are really helping ourselves with our own issues with the guidance of another person and no need to replace God in the process.
Going to therapy is a sign that one is trying to be a better person, is trying to learn how to deal with their issues in a healthier manner and is trying to figure out how to love oneself. Therapy is just one of the tools we can use to heal. So let’s take the stigma out of therapy and be proactive in the betterment of our lives!
By the way, I have been going to a therapist off and on for close to 5 years. No shame to my game. I attend therapy once a month because my mental and emotional health is just as important, if not more important, then my physical health. If my mind is right, then the rest will work itself out. Fortunately, I have made tremendous gains in my personal life for the 5 years partially thanks to my wonderful therapist.
There is nothing to be ashamed of and it is perfectly alright to seek the help of another when dealing with painful issues. I would also advise you to take your time with picking a therapist that gels right with you. No need to discuss your problems with someone you are not particularly fond of because the person was your first choice. If you need further assistance with picking a therapist, go HERE.