be active: take the stigma out of therapy
Go on, it’s okay to sit or lie down on a therapist couch
Therapy is, oftentimes, a taboo subject, especially in the African-American community. Perhaps, we do not discuss our need for therapy because we are afraid of how others will perceive us (as if others do not have their own issues). The words “crazy” and “unstable” seem to be the implied judgement when therapy is brought up. We may also avoid therapy like the plague because some of us may feel we are not honoring our faith by entrusting another human being to “fix” our issues instead of God. However, it would actually be crazy not to seek help when having difficulties in life; and in therapy, we are really helping ourselves with our own issues with the guidance of another person and no need to replace God in the process.
Going to therapy is a sign that one is trying to be a better person, is trying to learn how to deal with their issues in a healthier manner and is trying to figure out how to love oneself. Therapy is just one of the tools we can use to heal. So let’s take the stigma out of therapy and be proactive in the betterment of our lives!
By the way, I have been going to a therapist off and on for close to 5 years. No shame to my game. I attend therapy once a month because my mental and emotional health is just as important, if not more important, then my physical health. If my mind is right, then the rest will work itself out. Fortunately, I have made tremendous gains in my personal life for the 5 years partially thanks to my wonderful therapist.
There is nothing to be ashamed of and it is perfectly alright to seek the help of another when dealing with painful issues. I would also advise you to take your time with picking a therapist that gels right with you. No need to discuss your problems with someone you are not particularly fond of because the person was your first choice. If you need further assistance with picking a therapist, go HERE.
8 Responses to “be active: take the stigma out of therapy”
I would previously said I was someone who did not need a therapist. However I have been using one the past 12 months and it has been worthwhile. In particular I am able to discuss the grossly negative stuff I am reluctant to voice to those close to me.
Thanks for the post.
Thank you for responding and being open. I am happy that your therapist is working for you. It feels good to know when we have an outlet to say however and whatever we feel to someone and that person will not judge us, only help us.
Pretty much everyone could use help like that, to different degrees, because life can be tough. I went when I was going through a divorce many years ago, it helped a great deal. The more its talked about like in your post, the better.
Thanks for sharing your story. Therapy, however one pursues it, is great for one’s psyche during the tough times. I’m glad it helped you!
Kudos to you for sharing this information. I must say, I had no idea that one of the reasons people did not go to a therapist was because of a religious aspect. I am confused at that since some religions encourage couples to see the help of the pastor in trying times. This is surprising indeed. I love the idea of seeing a therapist and as I get older I think it would be beneficial so I don’t have to work so hard trying to figure it all out. Another view point that is impartial would be a good thing.
Great article!
Peace & Light
Thanks for reading and commenting. I think a lot of people more so are scared of going to the unknown world of therapy and they find all kinds of excuses for not giving therapy a try but I say why not try it? If and when you do go, I hope you find comfort and peace with your therapy.
I am so open to it I know it will be a good thing for me. Thanks Jolyn!
Peace & Light
Yay! And you’re very welcome