It is so easy to point the finger at the other. It is difficult to point the finger onto yourself. Relationships are like mirrors. They reflect who we are–the good, the bad and the ugly. So when we see the other, we see the self. Sometimes, the reflection looks different but the underlying emotion is the same. Next time you are about to point the finger, check yourself and ask “What am I really trying to figure out? Why am I allowing this other person to place me in this state? Who am I really trying to address? Does this approach even feel right to my soul?” You may be surprise by the answers when you step out of ego and see yourself in truth. It can truly be a humbling experience so before being reactive, be proactive and check yourself.