be active: learn a career-enhancing lesson


In today’s workforce, it is best to learn as many skills as possible. There is one great website I found a long time ago that offers free online classes on a variety of career-oriented tasks from Microsoft programs (Excel, Word, Outlook, Powerpoint, etc.) to Internet basics to career development and much more. I actually learned Microsoft Excel and Word (with mail merging) on this site. offers video and written instructions providing simple steps in learning a variety of skills that can be very useful in the job market. Learn something new and check it out HERE! By the way, I am not getting anything by sharing this website. I am simply sharing a site that helped me when I was applying for jobs in hopes that it may be helpful for you.

Do you know about a free website that offers great career-enhancing lessons? Please feel free to share it in the comment section below! The more reference websites the better!


be active: notice the signs

natureI usually do not really put my own story into a posting but for this particular one, I will have to do just that. Lately, I’ve been praying for guidance, compassion, forgiveness and understanding due to a personal situation that occurred in my life. I had (and am still having) a multitude of emotions and I let them flow through me because it’s easier than to fight against them. I’ve also been learning to appreciate my feelings when they show up as if they are all beautiful colors that I’m painting on this canvas called life. And I remember specifically asking for God, angels, archangels, ancestors, transcended loved ones to help me through this because I needed (and always will need) a spiritual community to sustain some level of peace. So through these prayers, I’ve began to notice signs whether it was a facebook posting or a youtube video or a text message or a friend telling a story, or a song that popped up on my iTunes or a random conversation and these signs held little nuggets of wisdom that aligned with my recent prayers. I’ve been trying to recognize and thank the spiritual community for these signs. One sign just happened a few minutes ago. I was randomly watching a wonderful roundtable interview with nominated actresses and Lupita Nyong’o, the fine actress in 12 Years A Slave, stated a quote from Khalil Gilbran which resonated with me so I decided to immediately search on google for the quote and what I found was one of the most profound pieces of wisdom that has the perfect words I need at this particular moment. I wanted to share it with you as an example of what happens when you pay attention to life and you notice the signs that the Universe, the Source, the Spiritual Community brings when you are in a space of hurting and healing. I know I did not come across this at this moment by coincidence. I hope this resonates with you as much as it did with me.

On Joy and Sorrow
Kahlil Gibran
Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.

Some of you say, “Joy is greater thar sorrow,” and others say, “Nay, sorrow is the greater.”
But I say unto you, they are inseparable.
Together they come, and when one sits, alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.

Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.
Only when you are empty are you at standstill and balanced.
When the treasure-keeper lifts you to weigh his gold and his silver, needs must your joy or your sorrow rise or fall.



be active: create something out of nothing


There is nothing more magical than the moment when a person and God, Allah, Buddha, Krishna, Universe, Angels, Archangels, Ancestors, the Source work together to create something out of nothing. And if you pay close attention, you’re creating all the time–moments, memories, minutes, etc. as well as art, film, stories, paintings, etc. So this action is something you always do and don’t even realize. However, if you are not happy with what you have been creating energy wise lately, then maybe you could channel energy differently by creating something you would be happy with like a loving phone call to a friend, or a silly text message to a mate, or a random night out by yourself or a song or a drawing or a poetry book, etc. Whatever it is, be totally in the moment while creating and be proud of yourself at the creation once finished. You made that. You are that damn powerful to create that. Be in awe of it and own it completely. Rejoice in it. Allow the energy to lighten your heavy heart. Be moved by it. Celebrate it. Be thankful for the trust God had in you to co-create this masterpiece.


be active: my top 5 ‘be active’ posts of 2013

sunflowers_beactiveToday is the 4th Anniversary of The Jolyn Project and I wish to celebrate by highlighting my personal top 5 favorite posts from each section. Fourth up–the ‘be active’ section!

My Top 5 Favorite ‘be active’ Posts of 2013

1. You Don’t Have To Do Anything: This is one of those posts that almost felt like I didn’t write it. It flowed through me in a way that was organic and fluid. There wasn’t much conscious thought from me. I just started typing and couldn’t stop and once I was done, I was amazed at what was there. Sometimes, creation happens like that and usually it’s the best of an artist’s work. Thank God for moments like that. READ HERE

2. Seek Abundance Right Now: I have a constant problem with not feeling like I’m doing enough so this was kind of like a pep talk for those of us who keep forgetting the abundance that is already around us. READ HERE

3. Be Peace In The End: This is one of the most personal posts I’ve ever written on this site and one of the hardest for me. However, I pushed through my fears and wrote it anyway because I know there are many others who have had similar thoughts as me and may need words of encouragement during their darkest hour. I really pray that as many people as possible who are going through their lowest point will read this or see something or talk to someone and be inspired to continue to live life despite the obstacles that are in their faces now. READ HERE

4. Take The Stigma Out Of Therapy: I’ve noticed that there is a stigma about therapy amongst those in my community and I thought I would address the benefits of therapy from personal experience so that we can hopefully take out the negative connotations that are associated with the word and more of us will look at therapy as an option to getting the help needed to live better lives. READ HERE

5. Treat You The Way You Want To Be Treated: It’s a new mantra that I hope resonates with others. Self-love is spoken so much but most people overlook it or don’t quite get what that means so I figured with this idea, maybe self-love can be more concrete in people’s minds.  READ HERE

Buddha in the Snow

be active: spend some time with you

Buddha in the SnowIn the holiday hustle and bustle, one may forget about oneself in “the spirit of giving”. In this mindset, one may think the sacrifice of one’s own happiness is needed in order to provide loved ones their happiest moment. However, that cannot be furthest from the truth. The spirit of giving is not about abandoning oneself but offering one’s self through the overflow of love that is filled internally. If one is depleted, then the heart’s offering will not be felt as deeply.

One way to remedy this problem is by spending some quiet time with yourself each day to reflect on your space, your mentality and your emotions. A little silence in a cluttered day provides a grounding that anchors your love and your connectivity to others, especially those closest to you. This time allows you to connect with your humanity and spirituality at the same time. There is nothing wrong to admit that you need a break even in the midst of one of the most hectic holidays which truthfully shouldn’t be that hectic at all. So treat yourself to the gift of time for self this holiday season and reap the many benefits of this present!


be active: treat you the way you want to be treated

loveyou“Treat others the way you want to be treated” is a classic saying that you have probably heard many times. However, “treat you the way you want to be treated” is not a common saying but just as important.

If you were able to objectively view your inner dialogue with self, what would the conversation be like? Would it be a loving rapport? Would you consider yourself a best friend or a worst enemy? Do you belittle yourself every chance you get? Do you empower yourself sometimes? Do you tell yourself how wonderful you are? Do you say “you’re beautiful” or “good job” or “you’ll get there” or any other positive affirmation that you would normally tell your family or friends?

If you were able to objectively view your actions towards yourself, what would the relationship be like? Are you loving, kind, compassionate, accepting? Do you treat you like royalty? Do you give yourself gifts, take yourself out on fun dates, spend quality time with you? Do you go on nice walks and have great talks with yourself where you understand you so much better? Do you forgive yourself and notice the blessing in the lesson? Do you abuse yourself mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically? Do you care about your emotions and treat them tenderly? Is there a high level of respect in this relationship? Is there unconditional love in this relationship, the kind you truly want in a relationship with others?

How can you expect someone to treat you like gold if you are treating yourself like a piece of plastic? Even if another person is trying their hardest to treat you as the priceless human being that you are, there is only so much he or she can do without pushing your own limitations of you.

There are a number of ways to treat yourself better. Here are three quick ones:

1) Seek a dream of yours and follow through on it. It can be as simple as meditating for one hour per day or as elaborate as publishing your very first song. Whatever the case may be, find one dream of yours, develop a plan and then execute it. Automatically, you will be giving yourself the chance to make a dream into reality and that is the most surreal feeling in the world once you see it in fruition. It will boost your self-worth tremendously.

2) Be nice to yourself. Whenever a negative thought about you comes to mind, try to stop it midway and think of a positive one. For instance, as soon as you think of a physical trait that you view in a negative light, find a physical trait that you do find attractive. This may take some time to get used to but mindfulness brings many opportunities to be more kind to yourself and confidence will build as a result.

3) Take yourself out sometimes. You, yes you, DESERVE time for yourself! Celebrate you. Get out your favorite outfit and paint the town red with love! Go to your favorite restaurant, buy that book you were eying, go to the festival that features your favorite artist. Hell, if you can, make a day all about you! Go to the spa. Go to the movies. As one of my favorite YouTubers, Shameless Maya, says, “Do you, boo!”

So yes, the classic saying is classic for a reason but please remember that the way you treat you is just as important because if you feel good about you then you will of course want everyone else to feel good with you so go on and make this saying a new classic in your life “Treat you the way you want to be treated.”

Banana Ice Cream

be active: make banana ice cream

Banana Ice Cream

My Banana Ice Cream with Sexy Strawberry Sauce!

I know making ice cream does not sound like the most life changing action in the world but it just might be the tastiest! I just discovered the joys of this treat yesterday and let me tell you….it is mmm mmm good. I am so excited about this treat because it is easy and most importantly, it is healthy. So therefore, you can say that making banana ice cream is life changing because it promotes better health in a fun and sweet way!

The recipe is very simple. All you need is some fresh bananas, (1 and 1/2 – 2 medium size bananas per serving), slice them in one inch pieces, place them in a zip lock bag, throw those bad boys in the freezer and then wait overnight or so, take them out of the freezer, place them in a food processor, blend it until it’s smooth and voilà! You got yourself some soft serve banana ice cream that is creamy and delish! Can you tell I love this?

If you wish to see a visual demonstration of this simple recipe, please look no further than below:

Now, if you want to get fancy like me, you can add cocoa powder and have chocolate banana ice cream or add vanilla extract and have vanilla banana ice cream or even make my simple strawberry sauce and drizzle that on top of it. If you wish to make the last suggestions, here is the recipe: I used about 8 strawberries, diced them and place them in about 2 tablespoons of agave nectar and let it sit in the refrigerator for a day. I am not sure if that is necessary but that’s what I did. Afterwards, I took most of the diced strawberries and put them in the food processor, blended them until smooth and toss it back in the container with the rest of the strawberries and stirred and that’s it! Pour it over your banana ice cream and I promise you, you’re going to smack your mama!

If you wish to learn about the health benefits of bananas, click HERE so you can see why this simple dessert is so awesome! Here’s a clue: Banana is one cardiovascular-ulcer-and-eyesight-protecting, electrolytes-rebuilding, bone-building, kidney-promoting fruit that has vitamin B6, vitamin C, manganese, fiber and of course, potassium.

How can you NOT love this dessert? Okay, I know a few ways but this is not for banana-hating, banana-allergic folks. Everyone else in the world, how can you NOT love this dessert!? Just try it and let me know how it is for you. You may not get as excited as me but I love food and I love sweets so to find a healthy alternative to ice cream is a big deal for me. Now, I just have to learn how to not have too much. lol Anyway, I really hope you guys enjoy this treat as much as me!


be active: you don’t have to do anything


You don’t have to do anything.

There is no rule book on how to live. There are no set of steps. There is no judgment day. Your life is simply your life.

There is no punishment for your human complexity. There is no hurt in your spirit. There is no pain so great that will eliminate your frequency. Your vibration is vital to the Universe whether it’s low or high. It will forever remain in the breath of life.

Remember, your actions are not you. Your words are not you. Your body is not you. You are you. You are all. You are forever.

There is no wrong or right way. There is just life. Life will be lived. Life will bring lessons, limitations, lost and love because life is the human expression of the soul’s intention to bring you closer to your true self. The human expression may be ugly, may be intricate, may be moody, may be grand, may be minute, may be abstract, may be remote, may be global, may be musical, may be cold, may be bleak, may be lush, may be floral, may be any and everything. It may be all of the above in one lifetime. However, the soul’s intention remains steady, remains firm in its rhythm. Your soul never loses its beat because its construction is drawn by God. When you question your soul’s intention, you are questioning God’s intention for one is the other, even if it is hard for our human expression to realize our God selves.

Allow life to come, allow life to be what life will be and the “unfoldment” of your path will be easy. If you fight against it, then life will be much more difficult. Acceptance is key. Acceptance is unconditional love in the lenses of human expression. Acceptance is the closest to realizing your God self in this realm.

However, acceptance is not something you should feel is a duty that must be met. Acceptance is just a state of being. Acceptance will come when you are ready to trust yourself enough to align with your soul’s intention.

The world will always bring something to alter your expression but your soul’s intention will forever remain pure within in the core of your being.

You don’t have to do anything because your soul’s intention is always doing something.


be active: speak from the heart


There are so many times we edit ourselves in fear of what the other may say, think or do. However, why even fear if you are speaking from the heart? Remember, the heart is not ego-based. It is pure love, the unconditional kind. The only reason to fear is if what you’re saying is based on your fear and not your love. Perhaps, we edit ourselves so much because we are not quite sure what we are truly trying to say or how and why we feel a certain way. We get caught up in empty rhetoric and “logical” explanations that usually never get to the root. The root is where the heart of the matter is located so once you’ve reached that clarity, if you feel you have to share that with others, why be scared?

I recently found this wonderful quote on facebook and think it can be applied here because if we lived with these simple rules then we could easily speak from the heart without much hesitation at all.