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be active: we don’t really care enough {ego check}

Credit: Photography from Adage Media @ Flickriver

Thanks to my brother for the inspiration.

I am going to be completely honest with you. I don’t care enough about the children in Africa that are suffering or those that drown in Katrina’s deadly seas in New Orleans or the families that were ripped apart by an earthquake in Japan or the soldiers that die everyday on both sides. I can go on and on about the many huge and small tragedies that go on everyday that I simply do not care about enough.

This may appear to be shocking to those that have been following my blog for awhile for I am always promoting peace, love and unity. I do believe in those three words but I like to believe in them in the safest way possible–on the internet, through written words on a blog–atypical of a young person from this generation, actually it is atypical of a person from the Western society. We wish to belong. It is our human condition, our interlocking need–to become apart of something greater than ourselves. We also wish to help. This, too, is in our human DNA. It is energy felt, vibrations measured, frequencies aligned. We can feel another person’s hurt, another person’s disappointment, another person’s depression, another person’s anxiety, another person’s sorrow and another person’s hopelessness. The dictionary calls this action empathy which most, if not all (somewhere deep down inside) has in their spirit.

However, we also wish to live life pretty easy. We want to focus on the least amount of hurt as humanly possible. We distract ourselves from our own low self-esteems, our own pain, our own disappointment, depression, anxiety, sorrow and hopelessness through the television, the internet, the news (which typically shows someone else’s seemingly greater struggle, making ours appear less harsh, less real, less brutal), personal relationships (the typical drama that ironically showcases our own issues with our selves while also masking them in the guise of another person’s issues) and work-related woes (that are usually dramatize as a coping mechanism to avoid deeper issues).

Through this complex psychology, we are oftentimes attracted to quick fixes to very complicated problems like KONY 2012 or Hurricane Katrina or the Earthquake in Japan or many wars around the world. We like band-aids on our own wounds so it would only make sense for us to be drawn to supposed solutions that place a band-aid to the world’s wounds. However, through this fearful approach of healing the world’s problems, we become align with agendas that are usually flaky in its direction and shady in its presentation. We don’t look further into the matter nor do we even really think about the problem for an extended period of time. Our empathy goes away because we don’t want to feel pain, we want to numb it away and wish for someone else to take care of it for us.  If you need an example of this, then read this very well-written article from Vigilant Citizen on the latest of these “movements”: KONY 2012 State of Propaganda. You do not have to agree with everything this article states but it does show that we don’t really look in depth into critical issues and we react to situations with emotions that fade as quickly as they appear.

So the question remains, how do we care more about these issues? And the answer is simple–truly care about ourselves individually first in order to learn how to care about ourselves collectively. Ironically, this is not an egoistical nor selfish move. It sounds like it but it’s not. Once we get to the root cause of these emotional starts and stops with our own personal issues, then we will be able to grasp the reasons why we react this way towards societal issues as well. This action helps us individually and collectively to move at a more fearless pace because love begins to enter in place of fear. It is time to really have an honest discussion about this. We don’t really care enough about others because we don’t really care enough about ourselves.

And if this blog entry hurts, then good. The truth hurts but it also heals through its revealing of our true selves. We need to hurt a whole lot more in order to feel the very real hurt of others. Through this action, we are letting God (Love) in and not edging God (Love) out and hopefully, one day, we can all learn how to care more beyond a quick retweet or petition signing or donation, including yours truly.