give: think less of what i can get and more of what i can give

When I chased after money, I never had enough. When I got my life on purpose and focused on giving of myself and everything that arrived into my life, then I was prosperous. – Wayne Dyer

Lately, I’ve been thinking about my career and what I want to do with my life and all the things I can get if I was able to just figure my career path out . I never once really thought of what I can actually give to a company or to my co-worker or to even my supervisor. Hell, I probably didn’t even think what I can possibly give to myself.

I know this sounds like an oxymoron. Here I am, thinking about getting things for myself but yet, I am not thinking about what I can possibly give to myself? Well, not exactly. You see, I was consume with the material things around me. I was consume with the thought of action. I was extremely focus on the physical. However, I totally forgot about the spiritual which is where the difference between getting and giving comes into play.

We can all be victims to this balance of getting and giving. Some of us think we are giving too much. However, that may not be the case either. Believe it or not. If we are giving a lot because we expect a lot of getting in return, then guess what? We are still in the getting side of this balance, which means, even when we think we are giving but truly hoping for something in return, we end up totally defeating the purpose of giving. And then, there are those of us who know that we are getting too much. We are always grabbing and wanting and wishing for something, someone or some action. We forget to be the very essence of our being and just be.  Give because we simply want to give.

Energy begins to manifest on a thought so the best way to balance the getting and giving is by thinking less of what we can get and more of what we can give. Start simple and observe our thought patterns. See where we can think about how we can give and be helpful to a given situation, rather than expecting something to happen in the situation. For instance, a lot of us become disappointed when someone doesn’t do something that we EXPECT them to do but perhaps, we can change our disappointment and maybe even our relationships if we begin to think more about what we can GIVE to the person to make he or she feel better. As India Arie poignantly sang in one of her inspirational songs, “That authentic love is about how much you can give.”

The ironic thing about this whole idea of giving is the more you do this selfless giving, the more you actually receive. Funny how God works huh?

learn & love: it’s not all about you

Have you ever realized that 99% of our suffering is self-inflicted? When someone is seemingly harming us, it is really us that is harming ourselves. We are merely seeing a reflection of what is going on, on the inside. It may seem scary to think that we, little ol’ humans, have this incredible God-like power but guess what? We do.  We have the tools to shape and mold our lives any way we wish to. Believe it or not, we are using this power right now.

When our thoughts surround ourselves with our problems, our home,  our money, our work, our struggles, we become self-absorbed. How else would Twitter and Facebook be so successful? Let’s be honest, we are narcissitic to one degree or another and through our narcissism, we come across many situations that seem to affect us and be directed towards us, even if it is not the case. We view it that way because we ARE that way. In other words, our selfish thoughts bring us selfish results. This is where the “7 deadly sins” come into the picture. Wrath, greed, sloth, pride, lust, envy, and gluttony is only in existence due to our selfish thoughts when we think about ourselves first before anyone else.

However,  if we began to really focus our attention to the person next to us, we would be eliminating these “sinful” ways and become more peaceful because we would be selfless. Selfless thoughts bring us selfless results. This is probably the most peaceful way to live because we would realize that we are a part of something much greater than ourselves. Our world would not revolve around us individually so we would be able to enjoy life so much more.

Now, it does not mean that we do not think about our individual lives ever. However, there would be no constant need to  obsess about ourselves because we would be too busy thinking about the greater good of everyone instead of what makes [insert your name] feel good.  Furthermore, we would be able to share what we do have more abundantly. Through that sharing, a community would be formed and through that community, unity would truly be possible.