We have all been guilty of this. We want something or someone right now, right at this moment. It does not go the way we wanted it to go. We throw a hussy fit and then, it happens the way God/Universe/Source decides for it to go and it ends up being better than we thought it should go.
Sometimes, our way is not the best way. Our ego can bitch and fuss but life will do what life does with or without our approval. Besides, life is always aligned with us, whether we think it does or not. Life works through the subconscious. Meanwhile, the conscious is oblivious to it, wanting something else to happen. When we get out of our own way and have true faith, then life unfolds in surprising ways.
So let’s be patient, have faith and stop being big babies when we don’t get our way because we are getting our way always. :)
How do we relate in a relationship? How do we take in a relationship? How do we give in a relationship? How do we love in a relationship? Four questions that we typically forget to ask while we are in romantic relationships. Sure, we may ask a million other questions that appear to be these questions, even with the exact same wording but do we really ask these questions to ourselves honestly and to each other honestly?
Which one is more important to us when we are scoping for a mate–what he or she can give or what we and us can take? Be honest. Perhaps, the reason why relationships are falling apart at an alarming rate is because we begin the search with the wrong preface. Maybe there should not even be a search for “the one.” What are we searching for when searching for this person? What do we expect this person to do for us? Give us some peace of mind that we are not alone? Give us some sun in our cloudy skies? Give us some love in our loveless hearts? Give, give, give while we take take take?
What do we offer in a relationship? Do we give that person some peace of mind that he or she is not alone? Give this person some sun in his or her cloudy sky? Give this person some love in his or her loveless heart? Give, give, give while the other take take take?
Is this a relationship? Are we even relating to one another? Or is this an exchange of loneliness? A search for vicarious love? A superficial filling up of empty chakra #4? Can sharing love even happen in this arrangement?
be like a lotus flower in honest pursuits
We lie to ourselves a lot. We lie so much that we forget the lie. We begin to think it’s our reality yet it is really all an illusion. Perhaps, one could argue this disposition because it is the essence of our creation. However, there is a solution to this problem and that is honesty in all its loving brutality.
There are many places you can start with this exploration of unfiltered truth. You could begin with the parts that make you uncomfortable, the parts of you that you’ve chosen to hide in front of family, friends and mates, the parts of you that you’ve hidden from yourself over time. You could begin with the messages that have been played over and over again in the background taking control of your subconscious mind and pushing you towards the same actions and reactions over and over again. You could begin with facing the conditioning that took place since your childhood and see if your adult higher self really agree with these societal conditions. You could also begin by admitting to yourself that you are a mess, a beautiful mess.
Please know that this undertaking will involve tears, pain and hurt. It will also involve finding compassion, humbling self and creating the foundation of unconditional love. When one knows self really well and is completely honest with self, then that self can learn to heal the parts that are torn and accept the rest that will stay as scars. The self will be able present his or herself to others with honesty and the self will be able to accept others for who they really are without judgment because they will recognize wholeheartedly that no one is perfect but everyone is perfection in the Source’s eyes.
During this process, please do not forget the love. This is not a moment where you beat yourself up to a bloody pulp and leave yourself there to rot. This is a moment you have a gaping open wound which you may be able to heal quickly and save your life or take the plunge and die, allowing a rebirth to come to pass soon after. Either way, a beautiful awakening will breakthrough the illusion.
Have you ever realized that 99% of our suffering is self-inflicted? When someone is seemingly harming us, it is really us that is harming ourselves. We are merely seeing a reflection of what is going on, on the inside. It may seem scary to think that we, little ol’ humans, have this incredible God-like power but guess what? We do. We have the tools to shape and mold our lives any way we wish to. Believe it or not, we are using this power right now.
When our thoughts surround ourselves with our problems, our home, our money, our work, our struggles, we become self-absorbed. How else would Twitter and Facebook be so successful? Let’s be honest, we are narcissitic to one degree or another and through our narcissism, we come across many situations that seem to affect us and be directed towards us, even if it is not the case. We view it that way because we ARE that way. In other words, our selfish thoughts bring us selfish results. This is where the “7 deadly sins” come into the picture. Wrath, greed, sloth, pride, lust, envy, and gluttony is only in existence due to our selfish thoughts when we think about ourselves first before anyone else.
However, if we began to really focus our attention to the person next to us, we would be eliminating these “sinful” ways and become more peaceful because we would be selfless. Selfless thoughts bring us selfless results. This is probably the most peaceful way to live because we would realize that we are a part of something much greater than ourselves. Our world would not revolve around us individually so we would be able to enjoy life so much more.
Now, it does not mean that we do not think about our individual lives ever. However, there would be no constant need to obsess about ourselves because we would be too busy thinking about the greater good of everyone instead of what makes [insert your name] feel good. Furthermore, we would be able to share what we do have more abundantly. Through that sharing, a community would be formed and through that community, unity would truly be possible.